Today I broke double-digits and I have 10 whole days sober.
Miraculously, I feel FANTASTIC. I feel like I’ve just won the lottery.
Story time:
8 days ago I had an emotional breakdown. I stayed home from work ‘sick’ and I just laid in bed depressed all day. I felt like nothing was working for me and everything was fucked up. I didn’t quite have a job, I didn’t have many friends, I wasn’t having fun, I don’t like my apartment, I’m broke, I’m in debt, and I wanted to go home. I really wanted to go home and give up on D.C. and everything I came here for.
I called an old buddy of mine back home to talk to him to try to feel some comfort. He’s been around for a while, but he’s currently relapsing. He’s still my friend though! Anyway – he eventually asked “How are you doing?” and I told him the truth. I told him I feel like I failed and I feel like everything is shitty right now. After about a minute I ended up crying and had to hang-up. I couldn’t stop crying for another 30 minutes. Prior to that, I haven’t cried in over a decade.
I called more people and again cried to them and had to hang up and call them back. I called to my parents and broke down crying to them calling myself a failure and all this other stuff.
The next day was more of the same. Staying home from work, laying in bed all day, crying – essentially sitting in my own shit.
I had hit my emotional bottom.
Then – I had an old friend who lives in D.C. call me up to see if I wanted to grab lunch with him. I told him sure, but as long as he doesn’t mind me unloading on him. He said he didn’t mind. I don’t think he knew what was coming at him.
That lunch at Tunnicliff’s Tavern changed my life. He helped me realize so much stuff about my self that I hadn’t known. I had been living my life all for my ego. Nearly everything I did, was to make me ‘look cool’ or ‘look important’ in order for me to feel better about my self. I lived my life trying to fill my empty soul with power, prestige, and whatever else it took to be wanted and admired.
I had also realized, that I’ve given up. I hit that bottom and I’ve totally given up. He helped me realize I never truly admitted defeat and that my life was unmanageable during any of the years I had of sobriety.
I never truly admitted defeat to alcohol and the way of life I was living.
After I admitted that to myself – I just felt this huge relief. It was like a huge burden has just been lifted off me.
I went into that lunch on the verge of crying, and I left smiling and happy. In fact, it’s been a week since then and I am still happy and smiling.
It’s like I just found out SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much about myself and now sooooooooooooo much stuff makes sense.
Today I have a job.
Today I have friends.
Today I have self-awareness.
Today I have fun.
Today I’ve taken steps to manage my finances better.
I have started reclaiming my life.
In AA, they talk about being on a “pink cloud”; well, let me tell you – I am HIGH on that pink cloud right now!